How to support your child’s resilience

 

  • Focus on what your child has learnt when something goes wrong and not on the outcome. Help them to understand where they went wrong and how they can use this as an opportunity for next time.

 

  • Help them make the best of bad situations. Do not let them use a bad situation as an excuse; instead, help them see the positive and to get the best out of every situation

 

  • Allow them to take safe risks and encourage them to keep trying, even when faced with the possibility of failure.

 

  • Do not make life too comfortable for your child – allow them to solve problems and work out their own solutions when things go wrong.

 

  • Do not give your child all the answers. Make them find their own information and do their own research.

 

  • Allow your child to make mistakes.

 

  • If your child is not doing as well as others encourage them to reflect on what others have done that is different and how they might do something similar next time.

 

  • Allow your child, in an age-appropriate fashion, to have as much power, as many choices and as many opportunities to succeed or fail as possible. Do not disapprove, swoop in or take control back.

 

  • Encourage your child to be independent but let them know that it is okay to seek help when needed.

 

  • Open as many doors as possible for your child to explore interests and develop at least one talent.

 

  • Praise your child when they deal with adversity. Remind them life is not fair and that when they encounter hardships, they need to learn to endure these challenges. It is important to remind your child that every road to success is filled with setbacks.